What's Freedom? Where's Freedom? (2)

As shared on my Facebook wall since 16th July 2015:

For typical joint-family stores OR joint-family single houses of yester years, privacy between two individuals and for that matter, privacy or freedom to do what he wants to do or aspire to do, takes a back seat always. 

An individual might want to read a book or novel on his own, in a secluded space ensuring some sort of privacy.  For those who were blessed with a Machu Veedu (one-story upper or mezzanine structure), perhaps, an individual can find a solace and comfort to enjoy his privacy. 

Even in Apartment-culture in towns and cities lately since 2000 and beyond, a family of 4 living in an average less than 1000 sq.ft. flat, privacy is definitely the one found in the dictionary, awfully. Leave alone couples find their privacy ensured.  Leave aside a normal conversation, however confidential in nature that it would be requiring a private within-the-4-walls jurisdiction, two people cannot comfortably speak and engage their conversation ensuring their privacy, here, privacy I mean freedom to speak up, freedom to express one's views or thoughts on any subject on earth, be it social or cultural debate or normal petty family subjects to be discussed on the floor of the house.  Unlike a Parliament, no house in present day terms is blessed with 'well of the house'.   Drawing room and/or Bed Room(s) are the only place for people within a family needs to live with, to talk through their problems, issues, quarrels, a normal discussion and so on. 

Due to the 'Korosanai' effect I mentioned earlier, many a times, even a normal discussion, not necessarily that leads to a prolonged fight or quarrel or wordy abuse (worst come worst), the conversation gets out of the 4 walls where there is every chance the message is sent across invariably, WIFI available or unavailable in that premise. 

Many a times, for the sake of ensuring familial internal politics or matters of confidence NOT TO encroach beyond one's jurisdiction or territory, by and large, wives or our best-halves would make us the MEN into halves 'Don't raise your voice. Don't shout.  Why do you escalate this now? People out there (neighbors or those walking on the road or apartment corridors can listen to what we are talking. Don't spoil the image of each of us of this house at large and so on and so forth).  

In many houses, within a flat or family, when children are around, it is highly UNETHICAL to talk seriously in front of them as (a) that would send a wrong signal from psychometric arithmetics (b) Children might be busy in their homework or studies or at the worst, playing their games in door or out-door notwithstanding (c) Husband-Wife quarrellings by and large CAN NEVER BE ruled out in our families. With present generation youth and children, such quarreling, however understandable and is well-within the familial bonding between the couples, children look at differently as if (d)  Oh, Amma Appa always fight for nothing?  Why do they fight? They don't give a damn and care for ourselves. Don't they realize they are spoiling their mood and our moods too? Don't they realize they lose their image in front of us, Children. 

Mostly, present day youth prefer a peaceful atmosphere at home, like everyone or matured adult (man or woman) would like to possess.  Of course, it is everyone's fundamental right and any oppression or regressive nature of behavior of the inmates in a house (with such quarrels and squibbing) to ensure such episodes DO NOT occur for the sake of well-being of everyone around; emotional quotient, preventing mental or psychological or psychometric impact perspective, any excessive debate leading to a quarrel or fighting between two or more people in the house leads to a chaos and that can lead to catastrophic phenomenon. 

However, there is Catch-22 here.  In modern houses, most parents (implying couple) do not have the luxury of living in no more than 1000 or 1200 sq.ft of living space where (a) one room is taken by the elders at home (b) one room is taken by the couple for themselves (c) one or more rooms are shared or consumed by the children, however small or big they are in their age group.  The more the age, the separated enclosure that the children usually demand to be allocated to them, come what may.  With the advent of technology and its advancements, most living or drawing rooms are occupied by guests and passers-by and/or the idiot-box called TV.   Most of present day youth demand a secluded place for them, with or without an Air-Conditioner; whether there is an AC is there or not, children above age 5 until as late as 25 or so, prefer to lock themselves to pursue what they are unto - be it studies, phone a friend, reading leisurely, listening to music, engaging in social media via any of the modern day gadgets that are available at plenty. 

Any space encroached by parents, other elders or frequent guests in the family finds it a critical acclaim by the children as if RAVANA tookover Sita at the behest of RAMA (the parent/s). 

(to be continued)